How does love happen? By choice.

Note (added on 18th March, 2010): To understand this, understand the meaning of "Subconscious". This post is not about love being controllable. This post is about our hearts being selective who they fall in love with.

Some of my friends are too eager for me to post something about my love life. Well sorry guys, that's too personal. But instead, you get The Abhijit Theory on "How does love happen?". Well, after brooding a lot on the topic, I've begun to think that Love actually happens by choice, and not by chance. However, I may add that the choice is made at a subconscious level. Let me elaborate.

Most people would say that love is blind and it really doesn't depend on anything. But friends, these are just ideals created by movies and books. In real life, we generally like good looking people. They're considered more honest and truthful in the society. You have to agree on this.

People are attracted to beauty, personality (Nature. This is in bold because people are overlooking it), money, power (influence), exclusivity, and so on. This is nothing good or bad. It's just the way we are. And your mind, is continuously weighing down these factors, at least subconsciously. It's not like you carefully notice everything. Humans communicate 93% through body language and 7% through words I've heard. So it's basically attraction that leads to love. I don't believe in LOVE at first sight. There's attraction at first sight, almost totally based on the looks. And that attraction may convert to love. The PUREST form of love is when you feel that a person in your life cannot be replaced by anyone. Your parents, your best friends, your girl friend, your dog, etc.

People also say "Love is unconditional". That it doesn't matter whether the one you love loves you back or not. Well here's the thing. Imagine the world with the person you love, loving you. Still doesn't matter whether the person you love, loves you or not? Well I'd say either you're not human or you're not in love. (Please read comments for further elaboration) Everything about love can be explained on a psychological basis. That is why there are techniques to attract people to you. That is why, the book "RULES" which aims at getting a man to marry you is such a hit. That is why, girls play hard to get, people show attitude, people do what is considered cool and hip, etc. That is why people strive hard to look good, talk good, behave good, and so on. If you really believe love is blind, why do you do all that?

My friend Anoop asked the difference between Heart and Mind on Facebook. I am now in a position to answer him. The difference between Heart and Mind is that Heart is the subconscious mind. (No, we are not talking about heart that pumps blood in our body). I would write more on thing called love, but later.